According to the upcoming book The Power of No by James Altucher with Claudia Azula Altucher, HayHouse, £10.99, using this two letter word more often is the key to being happier and healthier –but they admit it can be a really tricky word to say. Scuse me why’ll I just click over to amazon and buy my own copy ( The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance And Happiness ) because seriously, I am victim on ‘inability to say no-ness’ right now. Exhibit A being the lack of posts on here recently.
I used to be really good at saying NO to work that I couldn’t easily fit in, but over the last month I seem to have forgotten how to form the word and between work overload, ramping my running times back up (more on that soon), and trying to keep up a social life, the hour a day I’d normally spend blogging has been squeezed out. Which is kind of annoying as it’s an hour I really enjoy.
Over the years of interviewing experts into willpower etc though I have picked up a couple of tips on how you’re supposed to say no – so, I figured today was as good as day as any to remind myself of them. And then share them in case anyone else out there is having the same issues as I am – be it over-commitment, over-consuming calories (yeh, let’s not talk about that one right this minute) or anything else that’s stopping you saying the NO word. So here goes….
How to say no to others: Use what psychologists call the sandwich technique. In this you sandwich the bad ‘news’ between two good bits, so, say your friend wants you to go out for dinner, but you want to go to Zumba – try this. ‘I’d love to see you (good bit), but I have already arranged to go to Zumba (bad bit). How about we go the the cinema on Friday? (good bit).’
How to say no to yourself: We all have one, that little devil on our shoulder that says ‘eat the cake’. He or she is often very hard to say no to, but here’s how to do it. Rather than saying ‘No, I can’t have/do xxxx’ tell yourself ‘No, I don’t want to xxx‘ This tells your brain you’re making a conscious choice to change your behaviour and it makes it happen.
So, will I start using the word more again? I guess you’ll know the answer to that by how many posts appear here over the next week!
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